The goal of life is to learn to live in the moment. Not bothered by past experiences, not worried about future possibilities. Living means experiencing now, because you can only live in the now.

But we lose that understanding of life progressively as we get into adulthood.

We learn all the wrong things. We start learning how to stay in the past or travel to future all the time.

Then we decide that we need to unlearn them.

When we decide on that, this is how the natural process of unlearning goes:

We get obsessed with a future goal; fail to get it; try again; fail to get it again; try again…

Until that one moment comes and we decide that obsessing over that goal is not that meaningful after all.

When we repeat this process for many other goals, we make a generalization: obsessing over the future often does not work out in the intended way.

Then, in the meantime, we also get stuck with past experiences. We try to forget them; we still remember them; we try again; fail again; try again; fail again.

When we repeat this process for many other experiences, we make a generalization: obsessing over the past does not help in our quest of how to live in the moment.

Then, we repeat this process for many other experiences until we generalize it to our whole past.

Once we get to a good point on both of these sides, past and future, we start living more in the moment.

But here is the catch: If we look at the two sides of this natural process, there are two words that that repeat more than others:

Try and fail

Because in that process, we try many times and fail many times.

We keep trying because unlearning brings in resistance.

We fail many times because we lost how to be in touch with reality of the now long ago. We don’t know how to do it.

At the end of this process, if we are consistent enough, we will certainly achieve something.

But not necessarily a future goal.

But we can certainly achieve our selves.